Discover your Self-Image
“What you talk to yourself about you, in front of the mirror,
is not what you talk to others about yourself”
Most of you have huge knowledge, however you do not express it resulting in your low visibility. You would not be expressing due to the following reasons.
Say YES to yourself if you agree to any of these statements.
You feel your knowledge is not important to others.
You think they do not have the right knowledge to contribute.
You feel others have better knowledge.
You do not know how to present the knowledge.
You do not want to expose yourself and would like to lie low.
You want to lie low in front of competitive people as you do not want to hurt their feelings.
You feel inferior to others or others are superior to you.
Now “why do you behave the way you behave”
Because there is self-image you have created in your childhood about yourself.
This self-image does not allow you to move from your programmed self.
It is like the plane which is on auto pilot mode. Even though the plane moves away, it has a mechanism which pulls it back to track. This technology is called Cybernetics.
Even your self-image is called Psycho-Cybernetics for you which pulls you back to achieve your results on a long-term. This stop, is called the self-limiting belief which is like the small rope tied to a huge elephant. The elephant can set itself free but it does do due to programmed self-image.
Can I change my self-image?
Yes you can. You could talk to us or specialist on Psycho-Cybernetics to un-conceal the root cause of your source/ self-limiting belief of your self-image . Once you are free from it, is easier for you to practice new behaviors to produce the result.
Procrastination
Procrastination is an action of postponing things which you promised to yourself
Why do Human beings procrastinate?
There are two reasons.
One human brain always looks at instant gratification.
Second a fear of the result stops it to act.
However, in both the cases it ends in a guilt.
Hence brain always focusses on what needs to be done now so that it gets high once the task is completed. Any futuristic activity makes the brain to postpone.
Why is it? Because there is no instant gratification.
Hence you would have noticed if you want to take up tough task either you find ways not to take it up or ignore it.
You might get ways to avoid it by getting into social media.
Hence it is difficult to challenge your procrastination behavior due to smart phone compared to what was happening in pre-smart phone era.
Now how do you stop procrastination
Tell someone that you are going to do that task and tell him to questions you at the end of the day.
Human being due to the fear of being embarrassed will complete it. Or have a pain point or pleasure point if you complete the task.
Example Incase you do not complete the most important task of the day, you will not take up the task you like most.
Hence your brain is driven to complete this futuristic task so that you get the gratification for completing the task of the day.
If the futuristic task is big, ensure you break it smaller tasks on a day to day today before taking up the task of the day
Decision Making
Ratan Tata says ”He takes decision on an issue, then he knows whether it is right or wrong decision after the result”
Most of the time people analyze a lot to arrive at a perfect decision, in the process they lose the opportunity cost and time in analyzing.
What is the best way?
The best way is to have a trusted person so that in case you get confused you could take guidance from him or use your leap of faith.
Also, don’t have the fear of rejection or the fear of ridicule in case your decision goes wrong.
Please note that people are always judgmental to other’s activity, however their memory is short, hence they forget.
You are the person who keeps remembering it than the other people.
There is a story of two monks. The first monk sees a girl stuck in a bridge and hence carries her to the other banks.
However, second monk feels it was not right to carry the girl as per the value systems.
After two days the second monk asks the first monk why did he carry her.
The first monk replied that he had already dropped her two days back, however the second monk was still carrying her.
What an analogy in decision making.
Why are people scared to take decisions?
The reason is they have a fear of failure.
It is not about the failure only, they attach a social stigma to it and self-depreciate themselves.
Hence to avoid this kind of situations they procrastinate decisions.
However, there are some people who consult others in case they do not have the knowledge and use their leap of faith to take the decision and become responsible to it.